DJ and business woman, DJ Zinhle speaks on how she got rid of the pain of losing his baby daddy AKA, by making it a point to face any negative feelings head on and refuses to nurture pain.
DJ Zinhle revealed that she is now in a better emotional space after dealing with the pain of losing AKA, during an interview with Arye Kellman on Cliff Central.
According to the DJ, the period of the whole allegations drama and cheating scandals was the worst time of her life, DJ Zinhle reveals in the interview. She says she was in a dark space emotionally, which led her to get her first tattoo to numb the emotional pain she was feeling at the time with physical pain.
“So now, the first tattoo that I have is a rose. Actually, both are roses. This big one on my arm, I got it when I was going through the shittiest time of my life.”
“And when I got this tattoo it was so therapeutic, cause it was just like pain, but it just made sense. You know when you can make sense of pain? Because I couldn’t make sense of a lot of pain at the time, but when I had the tattoo… you know why you’re hurting.”
DJ Zinhle was asked why she got a rose tatto, she expained: “…But also for what I had gone through in my life, with the father of my child, it was just like, with everything that happened, a rose is still a rose. So it made sense.”
To get over the breakup, DJ Zinhle says she had to make conscious choice to move on and focus on her own happiness. “I always get DMs [direct message on Twitter] from people asking how I managed to forgive him, something they have been struggling to do, and I always ask what have you done to deal with your emotional pain?
“People always want to nurse and nurture pain. Pain is not a baby.”
DJ Zinhle says she made a decision to actively deal with her emotional pain by not reading or watching anything negative.
She got over losing AKA through reading Oprah Winfrey and TD Jakes’ books, which gave her affirmation that she was good enough.
The interview was based on a post that DJ Zinhle shared on Twitter, saying no one should fall into the “trap” of being vengeful. DJ Zinhle believes the “revenge mentality” turns one into a “puppet” because they stop doing things to make themselves happy and focus on what would make the next person jealous.
“I think we have lost it. We need to start doing things because they make us happy, not for revenge. I’m at that space where I am happy and aware of my surroundings, I just don’t care anymore what anyone thinks. The ultimate goal is happiness.”